A few weeks ago one of my best friends went into labor at only 21 weeks into her pregnancy, knowing her baby would not be born alive. It was such a traumatic and sorrowful experience for her and her husband. My heart just broke for them at the loss of their precious little one.
They have felt peaceful reassurances and comfort from Heavenly Father, and have had some very special and spiritual experiences. But they have also felt the deepest pain, sorrow and grief that parents feel when they lose a child. I found myself wondering what would be best for me to say or do, and how could I best serve them and bring comfort. My friend told me that a few friends and relatives and even hospital staff had unintentionally made insensitive comments. I know none of them meant to do that. They were trying to offer love and comfort, but what they said ended up doing the opposite.
I found this article that gives great advice on how to love and help people going through something like this:
Easing the Pain of Miscarriage
Here is another article where a mom explains her experience and what others have gone through.
Coping With The Heartache of Miscarriage
I know several people who have had miscarriages, and a few who have had still births. It’s surprising and sad that this happens so often. I have had 2 miscarriages myself, and I have learned that every situation is different and everyone grieves differently. May we be inspired to say the right words and give the love, support and comfort our friends need during these times.