Finding Courage in Difficult Times

After I wrote this article, I saw this picture and could not resist it! It’s PERFECT! Sometimes you just gotta hold your head high and keep marching forward! 
I am usually a happy and positive person – definitely an optimist. But lately I’ve had to face the fact that sometimes LIFE IS HARD and there’s not much we can do about it! (I really wanted to write “Life Sucks”, because that seemed to more accurately express my feelings, but I don’t like that word, so I won’t use it.) J


I know so many people who are suffering from health issues, terminal illnesses, financial troubles, broken marriages, struggles at work, temptations that haunt them, children who are straying from what they have been taught, the death of a spouse or child or parent, being a victim of abuse….you name it! These are serious and stressful situations. They are life crushing and life changing, and so hard to deal with. How do we manage and survive these things?

There’s only one answer. We need to rely on our Heavenly Father and His Son Jesus Christ and the love they have for us. It is real. They know us and love us, and we will feel their love and help when we reach out to them with our humble hearts and honest prayers. We need to trust in the Atonement of Jesus Christ and that it can heal us and make up the difference when we have done all we can. We need to understand that if we are trying and worthy, we can have the wonderful blessing of the companionship of the Holy Ghost, and we can be guided and protected and taught.

COURAGE – We need to have the courage to move forward in the right path, regardless of the consequences. We need to have the courage to just try to hang on one more day. We need to have the courage to try a little harder and do a little better. We need to have the courage to turn things over to the Lord and let go of the burdens that weigh us down or cause us so much hurt and pain. We need to have courage to believe that there are better days ahead and blessings waiting for us. 

One of my favorite scriptures is Joshua 1:9: 
“Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee withersoever thou goest.”

We can find many stories of courage in the scriptures – The prophet Daniel stood up for his beliefs and what he knew was right, even though he was threatened with death. The 2000 Sons of Helaman (the Stripling Warriors) were examples of faith and courage to obey God, to follow the teachings of their parents to be obedient in all things, and to trust that the Lord would protect them. I think of the courage of Esther who risked her life to save her people. The list goes on and on. And we all know of modern day examples of courage from family and friends in our own lives. 

May we have the courage we personally need to pick ourselves up and move forward to happier and better days. Our attitude will make all the difference!  

Here is a beautiful 3 minute video of examples of courage:

I couldn’t get the video to load here, so just click this link:
The Courage of Esther and Others 

Parable of the Seminary Doughnuts

I have no idea where the origin of this story is, but it was shared via email to me by my sister-in-law.  I Googled to find the source and there were a lot of entries, even one from Snopes.com.  Whether it is a true story or not, it is a poignant reminder of the Atonement and what our Savior, Jesus Christ, did for us.
 
Brother Christianson taught Seminary. He had an open-door policy and would take in any student that had been thrown out of another class as long as they would abide by his rules. Steve had been kicked out of his sixth period and no other teacher wanted him, so he went into Brother Christianson’s Seminary class.
 
Steve was told that he could not be late, so he arrived just seconds before the bell rang and he would sit in the very back of the room. He would also be the first to leave after the class was over.
 
One day, Brother Christianson asked Steve to stay after class so he could talk with him. After class, Bro. Christianson pulled Steve aside and said, “You think you’re pretty tough, don’t you?”
 
Steve’s answer was, “Yeah, I do.”
 
Then Brother Christianson asked, “How many push-ups can you do?”
 
Steve said, “I do about 200 every night.”
 
“200? That’s pretty good, Steve,” Brother Christianson said. “Do you think you could do 300?”
 
Steve replied, “I don’t know… I’ve never done 300 at a time.”
 
“Do you think you could?” Again asked Brother Christianson.
 
“Well, I can try,” said Steve.
 
“Can you do 300 in sets of 10? I need you to do 300 in sets of ten for this to work. Can you do it? I need you to tell me you can do it,” Brother Christianson said. Steve said, “Well… I think I can… yeah, I can do it.”
 
Brother Christianson said, “Good! I need you to do this on Friday.”
 
Friday came and Steve got to class early and sat in the front of the room.
 
When class started, Brother Christianson pulled out a big box of donuts. Now these weren’t the normal kinds of donuts, they were the extra fancy BIG kind, with cream centers and frosting swirls. Everyone was pretty excited-it was Friday, the last class of the day, and they were going to get an early start on the weekend.
 
Bro. Christianson went to the first girl in the first row and asked, “Cynthia, do you want a donut?”
 
Cynthia said, “Yes.”
 
Bro. Christianson then turned to Steve and asked, “Steve, would you do ten push-ups so that Cynthia can have a donut?”
 
Steve said, “Sure,” and jumped down from his desk to do a quick ten. Then Steve again sat in his desk.
 
Bro. Christianson put a donut on Cynthia’s desk..
 
Bro. Christianson then went to Joe, the next person, and asked, “Joe do you want a donut?”
 
Joe said, “Yes.” Bro. Christianson asked, “Steve would you do ten push-ups so Joe can have a donut?” Steve did ten push-ups, Joe got a donut.
 
And so it went, down the first aisle, Steve did ten pushups for every person before they got their donut.
 
And down the second aisle, till Bro. Christianson came to Scott.
 
Scott was captain of the football team and center of the basketball team. He was very popular and never lacking for female companionship. When Bro. Christianson asked, “Scott, do you want a donut?”
 
Scott’s reply was, “Well, can I do my own pushups?”
 
Bro. Christianson said, “No, Steve has to do them.”
 
Then Scott said, “Well, I don’t want one then.”
 
Bro. Christianson then turned to Steve and asked, “Steve, would you do ten pushups so Scott can have a donut he doesn’t want?”
 
Steve started to do ten pushups. Scott said, “HEY! I said I didn’t want one!”
 
Bro. Christianson said, “Look, this is my classroom, my class, my desks, and my donuts. Just leave it on the desk if you don’t want it.” And he put a donut on Scott’s desk.
 
Now by this time, Steve had begun to slow down a little. He just stayed on the floor between sets because it took too much effort to be getting up and down. You could start to see a little perspiration coming out around his brow. Bro. Christianson started down the third row. Now the students were beginning to get a little angry.
 
Bro. Christianson asked Jenny, “Jenny, do you want a donut?”
 
Jenny said, “No.”
 
Then Bro. Christianson asked Steve, “Steve, would you do ten pushups so Jenny can have a donut that she doesn’t want?” Steve did ten, Jenny got a donut.
 
By now, the students were beginning to say “No” and there were all these uneaten donuts on the desks. Steve was also having to really put forth a lot of effort to get these pushups done for each donut. There began to be a small pool of sweat on the floor beneath his face, his arms and brow were beginning to get red because of the physical effort involved.
 
Bro. Christianson asked Robert to watch Steve to make sure he did ten pushups in a set because he couldn’t bear to watch all of Steve’s work for all of those uneaten donuts. So Robert began to watch Steve closely. Bro. Christianson started down the fourth row.
 
During his class, however, some students had wandered in and sat along the heaters along the sides of the room. When Bro. Christianson realized this; he did a quick count and saw 34 students in the room. He started to worry if Steve would be able to make it.
 
Bro. Christianson went on to the next person and the next and the next. Near the end of that row, Steve was really having a rough time. He was taking a lot more time to complete each set.
 
Steve asked Bro. Christianson, “Do I have to make my nose touch on each one?”
 
Bro. Christianson thought for a moment, “Well, they’re your pushups. You can do them any way that you want.” And Bro. Christianson went on.
 
A few moments later, Jason came to the room and was about to come in when all the students yelled,
 
“NO! Don’t come in! Stay out!”
 
Jason didn’t know what was going on. Steve picked up his head and said, “No, let him come.”
 
Bro. Christianson said, “You realize that if Jason comes in you will have to do ten pushups for him.”
Steve said, “Yes, let him come in.”
 
Bro. Christianson said, “Okay, I’ll let you get Jason’s out of the way right now. Jason, do you want a donut?”
 
“Yes.”
 
“Steve, will you do ten pushups so that Jason can have a donut?” Steve did ten pushups very slowly and with great effort. Jason, bewildered, was handed a donut and sat down.
 
Bro. Christianson finished the fourth row, then started on those seated on the heaters. Steve’s arms were now shaking with each pushup in a struggle to lift himself against the force of gravity. Sweat was dropping off of his face and, by this time, there was not a dry eye in the room.
 
The very last two girls in the room were cheerleaders and very popular. Bro. Christianson went to Linda, the second to last, and asked, “Linda, do you want a doughnut?
 
Linda said, very sadly, “No, thank you.”
 
Bro. Christianson asked Steve, “Steve, would you do ten pushups so that Linda can have a donut she doesn’t want?”
 
Grunting from the effort, Steve did ten very slow pushups for Linda. Then Bro. Christianson turned to the last girl, Susan. “Susan, do you want a donut?”
 
Susan, with tears flowing down her face, asked, “Bro. Christianson, can I help him?”
 
Bro. Christianson, with tears of his own, said, “No, he has to do it alone, Steve, would you do ten pushups so Susan can have a donut?”
 
As Steve very slowly finished his last pushup, with the understanding that he had accomplished all that was required of him, having done 350 pushups, his arms buckled beneath him and he fell to the floor.
 
Brother Christianson turned to the room and said, “And so it was, that our Savior, Jesus Christ, pleaded to the Father, “Into thy hands I commend my spirit.” With the understanding that He had done everything that was required of Him, he collapsed on the cross and died. And like some of those in this room, many of us leave the gift on the desk, uneaten.”
 
 

Promises

I survived infertility.
Lately I have had a few moments of reflection about the Lord’s promises. Maybe it has been because of articles I have read about miscarriage, maybe it’s because of a video I saw of a girl that recorded her abortion experience, maybe it’s because my nephew had a birthday recently (and if I had carried my first pregnancy full-term, my child would be the same age as him) but either way I am reminded of this simple truth, that the Lord keeps His promises. 
About 3 years into being childless, I sought a priesthood blessing. I was really struggling with my grief and sadness and I needed peace and comfort. In the blessing, I was told that at the right time I would conceive and bear a child. What a comfort that was to me! What a joy it was to know that I would have the opportunity to be pregnant and have a baby. I was so happy to know that and I couldn’t wait for that day to come.
Sometime after that blessing, I remember starting to read the bible. I was so struck by the story of Rachel in Genesis. In chapter 30 verse 1 is says, “And when Rachel saw that she bare Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister;…” I felt such a kinship with Rachel. I envied my sisters. All of my sisters and my sister in law got pregnant and had babies before me. Later on in the chapter is says, “And God remembered Rachel, and God hearkened to her, and opened her womb.”
I wondered when God would remember me and open my womb. After this experience reading about Rachel, Elder Condie gave a great talk in General Conference . It was like he was talking to me and it renewed my faith in that blessing!
Fast forward 3 YEARS!! I clung to the promise in that blessing like a drowning person clings to a life preserver. There were times that I doubted, I cried, I felt angry and hurt, and I wondered if that promise of having children was ever going to be fulfilled. But, I tried to continue to trust in that blessing. 3 years I waited and wondered when it would happen. 
Lo and behold, it did. 
The Lord kept His promise to me. He remembered me.
I am here to tell you that it can be hard. The Lord may not always have the same time table as we do, but He WILL keep His promises. I know it. 
ps. To anyone struggling with infertility, I hope that you don’t feel hurt by anything I said. I have been there and it is horrible. I now have children and I feel so sad for those that have struggled or are still struggling to have children of their own. I pray that the desires of your heart are fulfilled.

Mother’s Day

 
 
 
 
How nice to be able to share a post on Mother’s Day.  This day means different things to different people.  Perspectives are as varied as our moms are. Some of us will use this day to honor our mothers who have meant so much to us, who brought us into this world and helped us to become the women we are today.  For some this day is not really a celebration.  I have friends who struggled with getting pregnant, who dreaded Mother’s Day and wouldn’t attend church on that day.  I used to think that was crazy, but then I mellowed and realized how they must feel when such a focus is put on being a mom–while their arms are empty.  Sometimes, even if we do have kids, we might feel that we don’t measure up and maybe have feelings of guilt and inadequacy on that day of the year.  For others it is a beautiful celebration full of family and children and breakfast in bed and all kinds of good things.
 
 This year my thoughts will go in a couple of different directions.  To my Mom, who’s dementia has lessened her quality of life, but I hope she can feel the love her children have for her.  To my daughter who is an incredible mother to two amazing little boys.  To my daughter who just got married last week who is going to be an amazing mom, as well, some day.
 
I recently read a great article that we are publishing today on Power of Moms called “A Mother’s Day to Remember.”  I hope that you will take the time to read it–and go ahead and check out our site for more great resources and support for moms.  Good stuff to read on Mother’s Day.
 
 
 
 
 
Image from Bing free images.

Marriage

I was fortunate enough to attend the wedding of my lovely niece this weekend.  Witnessing a blessed event like this always causes me to pause and think about weddings, receptions, dresses, cakes, centerpieces, honeymoons, children, and life in general!

Marriage is so much more than flowers and themes.  It truly is a partnership with God to cultivate a little bit of heaven on earth.  Has my home always felt like a heaven every day since my marriage 23 years ago?  I wish I could say so.  I often think how nice it would be to go back to my wedding day and start over knowing everything I know now.  Oh, I would still make mistakes, but my perspective has changed so much that I feel that I could “do it better” if only I could begin again.

But really, these covenants are not static.  One choice on one day does not a marriage make.  Well, legally I guess it does.  But marriage is a series of choices made every day to love and honor, support and sustain, cherish and nurture.  This covenant is renewed in spirit every time we choose to exercise patience when it would be understandable not to or when we sacrifice our wants to fulfill our spouse’s needs or in a hundred other ways when we make deliberate choices to uphold the commitment we made on that one special day.

The choice is ours, in each moment, to continue to say “I Will/Yes/I Do.”

LDS Media

Today a friend of mine posted something on Facebook that said it was sponsored by the LDS church.  It was crude and inappropriate.  It made me so sad.  I really hope that people can tell the difference between the things made by others to make us look bad and what our church really endorses. 

Over the past few years I have loved all of the material the church has put out.  The Mormon Messages are particularly inspiring.  That is what I love about this church, that all the messages are inspiring, not degrading. 

So in response to my friend’s post I would like to post one of my favorite Mormon Messages…after watching it one cannot feel anything but sweetness in their hearts.  I hope you all enjoy it as much as I do.

Each One of Us

 
 
I just read the most beautiful experience shared by a fellow Power of Moms board member via Segullah.  Catherine is an amazing writer and this is no exception.  I could never do justice to describing how amazing the  Sacrament ordinance is.  Please take a moment to read her words from an experience she and her family had while attending another congregation’s Sacrament Meeting.  Here is the link  The Last Sacrament Cup.
 
I am waiting until you read it…..
 
 
Now, how deeply did this just touch you?
 

Image from LDS.org.

“Give Us This Day Our Daily Bread”

Bread

Why is this phrase included in the pattern for prayer that the Lord gives us?  Could it be that He wants us to walk with Him daily and to have faith and trust in Him?  If we seek our daily bread from Him, He will never be too far from our minds and hearts.

Consider this statement from Elder D. Todd Christofferson (speaking of a challenge he faced):  “Though I suffered then, I am grateful now that there was not a quick solution to my problem.  The fact that I was forced to turn to God for help almost daily over an extended period of years taught me how to truly pray and get answers to prayer and taught me in a practical way to have faith in God.  I came to know my Savior and my Heavenly Father in a way and to a degree that might not have happened otherwise or that might have taken me much longer.  I learned that daily bread is a precious commodity.  I learned that manna today could be as real as the physical manna of biblical history.  I learned to trust in the Lord with all my heart.  I learned to walk with Him day by day.”
“Above all, remember that we have Him of whom manna was a type and symbol, the Redeemer.  ‘I am that bread of life.  Your fathers did eat manna in the wilderness, and are dead.  This is the bread which cometh down from heaven, that a man may eat thereof, and not die.  I am the living bread which came down from heaven:  if any man eat of this bread, he shall live forever; and the bread that I will give is my flesh, which I will give for the life of the world’ (John 6:48-51).
Ultimately, it is the Savior’s Atonement and grace that is our daily bread”.

Grieving: Miscarriages and Still Births

A few weeks ago one of my best friends went into labor at only 21 weeks into her pregnancy, knowing her baby would not be born alive. It was such a traumatic and sorrowful experience for her and her husband. My heart just broke for them at the loss of their precious little one.

They have felt peaceful reassurances and comfort from Heavenly Father, and have had some very special and spiritual experiences. But they have also felt the deepest pain, sorrow and grief that parents feel when they lose a child. I found myself wondering what would be best for me to say or do, and how could I best serve them and bring comfort. My friend told me that a few friends and relatives and even hospital staff had unintentionally made insensitive comments. I know none of them meant to do that. They were trying to offer love and comfort, but what they said ended up doing the opposite. 

I found this article that gives great advice on how to love and help people going through something like this:

Easing the Pain of Miscarriage


Here is another article where a mom explains her experience and what others have gone through. 

Coping With The Heartache of Miscarriage


I know several people who have had miscarriages, and a few who have had still births. It’s surprising and sad that this happens so often. I have had 2 miscarriages myself, and I have learned that every situation is different and everyone grieves differently. May we be inspired to say the right words and give the love, support and comfort our friends need during these times. 

Wrong Road

    I have a 10 year old son who is struggling with some big questions, one of which is, “Why didn’t God answer my prayer?” That is a difficult question to answer. I was so glad when I stumbled upon this short video because I think it answers the question well and it seemed to help him.
    This is a question that adults struggle with just as much. Especially when we feel we are doing all of the right things to get an answer.